when you’ve been always
left in the dark, helped by no one
it is harder to not feel bitter…
how do people not see this?
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when you’ve been always
left in the dark, helped by no one
it is harder to not feel bitter…
how do people not see this?
trailingsomething 
I love this. It is so honest and direct, and I identify so deeply and emotionally with your verse. It’s uncanny. I hate unsolicited advice, so instead, I’m going to share a morsel of my own experience.
It is difficult to not become bitter. Bitterness is the easiest path, in some cases—I battle it daily. For my own sanity, I have to learn to smile and forgive others for their lack of understanding and empathy. By doing so, I remain unlike them. I don’t always succeed, but I feel genuine compassion for a person who can live a life of self-absorption and indifference, never once questioning that path. It’s a horribly limited existence.
And, to the darkness: untold objects of value are tucked away, discarded in the night hours by those who see no use for them. Pick one up, if you feel so inclined. Dust it off, break out the silver polish, and place it on your mantle as a trophy of hardships overcome. May it serve as a constant reminder of your victory.
My mantle is getting a little crowded—I might need to tack up some new shelves.
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Thank you for your kind and thoughtful response to this. And it lifted me up when I was feeling kind of annoyed, though it is also about people not understanding others generally.
I agree, it can be kind of allowing yourself to move towards a possible lack of empathy when you give into that bitterness and don’t forgive. And when people do offer other’s understanding and allow them to feel heard it can take away possible bitterness that could be sabotaging their empathy.
But then, yes, at the same time, although you can know all this in theory it can be very easy to slip down into that when you do feel unheard. Maybe it’s a survival mechanism as well, one that isn’t usually great for anyone’s emotional well-being.
And that’s a beautiful metaphor for it. Those objects of value are always there.
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This is another thought that troubles me all the time. It is not a sin to be in darkness, but a sin to leave people in darkness and blame them with ignorance. Few people understand the difference. You have said this so well. 🙂
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It is so nice to have these same thoughts reflected, and in your poetry too. Yes it is the blaming with ignorance. If all of a person’s story was known it would be much harder to not have empathy for them.
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It’s because we’re all so judgemental, we lack empathy for the circumstances of those who did not have the chance to learn and understand.
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And one of the hardest things I think is not being judgemental towards people who are being judgemental and lacking understanding of these wider pictures.
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I agree, like the Dylan song, “A Hard Rain’s A-Gonna Fall”
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I am going to go listen to that 🙂
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Bitterness seems to take over so many hearts. Nice poem.
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It’s true, and it can sometimes be hard not to let it.
Thank you.
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